Resources / Book Recommendations

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I have read these books and/or my clients have recommended them. Many of my clients have found them to be helpful. Maybe you will, too.

Please note: Suggesting these books is to thank these authors for their good work and also help others. I receive no compensation for their placement on my website.


General books about Narcissism & Abuse Recovery

book cover for the body keeps the score

The Body Keeps The Score

by Besel Van Der Kolk

it's not you book cover image

It’s Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

by Ramani Durvasula PhD

Trapped in the mirror book cover

Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self

by Elan Golomb, Ph.D.

The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us

by Ross Rosenberg

book entitled 'out of the fog' by dana morningstar

Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

by Dana Morningstar

book cover for Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse

Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse

by Shahida Arabi

Trauma & Recovery - by Judith Herman

Trauma & Recovery

by Judith L. Herman, MD

Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists: Coping with the One-Way Relationship in Work, Love, and Family

by Eleanor D. Payson

Narcissism: Denial of the True Self

by Alexander Lowen, M.D.

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself

by Nedra Glover Tawwab


Adult Children of Narcissistic Abuse books

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents

by Lindsay C. Gibson

Self-Care for Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: Honor Your Emotions, Nurture Your Self, and Live with Confidence

by Lindsay C. Gibson

Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve

by Stephanie M. Kriesberg PsyD 

It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle

by Mark Wolynn

Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut - book cover

Adult Survivors of Toxic Family Members: Tools to Maintain Boundaries, Deal with Criticism, and Heal from Shame After Ties Have Been Cut

by Sherrie Campbell

Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone and Exercises for Recovery - Book cover

Healing the Adult Children of Narcissists: Essays on The Invisible War Zone and Exercises for Recovery

by Shahida Arabi

book entitled: will i ever be good enough? by karyl mcbride, phd

Will I Ever Be Good Enough? Healing The Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

by Karyl McBride, Ph.D., P.C.

Narcissistic Mothers: How to Handle a Narcissistic Parent and Recover from CPTSD - book cover

Narcissistic Mothers: How to Handle a Narcissistic Parent and Recover from CPTSD

by Caroline Foster

Narcissistic Fathers: How to Deal With a Toxic Father and Complex PTSD - book cover

Narcissistic Fathers: How to Deal With a Toxic Father and Complex PTSD

by Caroline Foster

Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships - book cover

Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships

by Nedra Glover Tawwab


Relationship Recovery Books

Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Recover from Emotional Abuse, Recognize Narcissists & Manipulators and Break Free Once and for All - book cover by Don Barlow

Gaslighting & Narcissistic Abuse Recovery: Recover from Emotional Abuse, Recognize Narcissists & Manipulators and Break Free Once and for All

by Don Barlow

Book cover - Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed by Wendy Behary

Disarming the Narcissist: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed

by Wendy Behary

The Highly Sensitive Person's Guide to Dealing with Toxic People: How to Reclaim Your Power from Narcissists and Other Manipulators - book cover by Shahida Arabi

The Highly Sensitive Person’s Guide to Dealing with Toxic People: How to
Reclaim Your Power from Narcissists and Other Manipulators

by Shahida Arabi

The Covert Narcissist: Recognizing the Most Dangerous Subtle Form of Narcissism and Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships book cover, by Dr. Theresa J. Covert

The Covert Narcissist: Recognizing the Most Dangerous Subtle Form of
Narcissism and Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships

by Dr. Theresa J. Covert

Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist book cover, by Dr. Ramani Durvasula

Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist

by Dr. Ramani Durvasula

book cover for co-dependent no more

Co-Dependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

by Melodie Beattie

Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse by Shahida Arabi

POWER: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse: A Collection of
Essays on Malignant Narcissism and Recovery from Emotional Abuse

by Shahida Arabi

Healing from Toxic Relationships: 10 Essential Steps to Recover from Gaslighting, Narcissism, and Emotional Abuse, book cover, by Stephanie Moulton Sarkis

Healing from Toxic Relationships: 10 Essential Steps to Recover from Gaslighting, Narcissism, and Emotional Abuse,

by Stephanie Moulton Sarkis

book entitled 'out of the fog' by dana morningstar

Out of the Fog: Moving From Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse

by Dana Morningstar

Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse, book cover.. by Shannon Thomas

Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse

by Shannon Thomas


Co-Parenting & Divorce

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Effective Strategies to Raise Resilient Children After Divorcing a Toxic Partner by Mia Warren

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Effective Strategies to Raise Resilient Children After Divorcing a Toxic Partner

by Mia Warren

book cover for The Art of Detachment: Tips & Tricks for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Set Boundaries, Preserve Your Sanity, and Protect Your Child from a Toxic Parent by Mary Dale

The Art of Detachment: Tips & Tricks for Co-Parenting with a Narcissist: Set Boundaries, Preserve Your Sanity, and Protect Your Child from a Toxic Parent

by Mary Dale

book entitled: will I ever be free of you by karyl mcbride, phd

Will I ever be free of you

by Karyl Mcbride, PhD

book entitled: splitting: protecting yourself while divorcing someone with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. by bill eddy, lcsw, jd and randi kreger.

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

by Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Randi Kreger.

Effective Co-Parenting or Parallel Parenting with a Narcissist: Set Boundaries, Eliminate Conflict, Protect Yourself, and Raise Emotionally Secure Children, book cover by Claire Brown

Effective Co-Parenting or Parallel Parenting with a Narcissist: Set Boundaries, Eliminate Conflict, Protect Yourself, and Raise Emotionally Secure Children

by Claire Brown

Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld by Christine M. Cocchiola & Amy Polacko, with Ramani Durvasula (foreword)

Framed: Women in the Family Court Underworld

by Christine M. Cocchiola &
Amy Polacko, with Ramani Durvasula (foreword)

Every Moment of Every Day by Christine Marie Cocchiola

Every Moment of Every Day

by Christine Marie Cocchiola

When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse by Lundy Bancroft

When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse

by Lundy Bancroft

book-Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men - by Lundy Bancroft

Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men –

by Lundy Bancroft

Co-Parenting With a Narcissist: A Life-Changing Guide to Protect Your Child, Set Strong Boundaries, and Keep Your Sanity After Divorcing a Narcissistic Ex - by Melanie Wolfkill

Co-Parenting With a Narcissist: A Life-Changing Guide to Protect Your Child, Set Strong Boundaries, and Keep Your Sanity After Divorcing a Narcissistic Ex

by Melanie Wolfkill


Workplace Bullying Book Recommendations

book entitled beating the workplace bully

Beating the Workplace Bully: A Tactical Guide to Taking Charge

by Lynne Curry

book Workplace Bullying: How to Survive and Thrive with a Bully Boss by David Leads

Workplace Bullying: How to Survive and Thrive with a Bully Boss

by David Leads

book entitled: the bully at work

The Bully at Work

by Gary Namie and Ruth Namie, PhD

book entitled: adult bullying, a nasty piece of work

Adult Bullying-A Nasty Piece of Work: Translating a Decade of Research on Non-Sexual Harassment, Psychological Terror, Mobbing, and Emotional Abuse on the Job

by Pamela Lutgen-Sandvik

book enetitled: overcoming mobbing

Overcoming Mobbing: A Recovery Guide for Workplace Aggression and Bullying

by Maureen P. Duffy and Len Sperry

book entitled Bullying by Caldwell

Bullying: Real and lasting ways to stop bullies, stand up for yourself and overcome fear

by Alice Caldwell

Workplace Bullying and Mobbing in the United States: 2 volumes - Maureen Duffy (Editor) , David C. Yamada (Editor) , Gary Namie (Foreword)

Workplace Bullying and Mobbing in the United States: 2 volumes

Maureen Duffy (Editor), & David C. Yamada (Editor)

book - Workplace Bullying: Narcissists in the Workplace by Leah Williams

Workplace Bullying: Narcissists in the Workplace

by Leah Williams

book - Workplace Bullying: Clinical and Organizational Perspectives by Judith Geneva Balcerzak

Workplace Bullying: Clinical and Organizational Perspectives

by Judith Geneva Balcerzak

book, Black Women, Intersectionality, and Workplace Bullying: Intersecting Distress by Leah P. Hollis

Black Women, Intersectionality, and Workplace Bullying: Intersecting Distress

by Leah P. Hollis

Informational Videos

Six kinds of emotional abuse by Narcissistic Parents

Informational Videos

Narcissistic Abuse

Eight signs you may be experiencing Narcissistic abuse

Workplace Bullying

Narcissistic Abuse

School Bullying

Narcissistic Abuse

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